I was contacted by someone last week, who said she wanted to know more about working with me. I could tell after 15 minutes of speaking with her, that she was just trying to score some free marketing advice. I gave her some ideas, then politely ended the call.
After the call finished, I felt frustrated with her for being so selfish. I was annoyed with her for wasting my time. And I was wrong!
It was my free choice to speak with her. She couldn’t have wasted my time, without my active consent. Had I been a little more careful, I’d have known she was a time waster before speaking with her. All the clues were there. But I dropped my guard. And I paid the price.
Here’s why I’m sharing this with you
Ultimately, we all choose where we surrender our time, attention and energy. It’s our decision.
Whenever something like this happens, I’ve found that the best thing to do is:
- Quickly accept responsibility.
- Look for the lesson and learn from it.
This approach means that my time waster wasn’t a time waster. She taught me a lesson and also gave me something to share with you. That’s not a bad return, for a 15 minute investment.